Snowflake Challenge #2 (Public entry)
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author_by_night In your own space, set yourself some goals for the coming year. They can be fannish or not, public or private.
I think one all-encompassing goal is to not let myself get wrapped up in other people's lives. Here's the thing: I'm both obsessed with keeping the peace and making sure everyone's comfort level is at the maximum level, and highly opinionated. (Though ironically, sometimes just wanting everyone to be happy is why I'm irritable and/or opinionated. It's interesting.) So outside I'm going "yeah girl, you do you!!!", inside I'm grappling with whether or not to say something. I've gotten much better, but I do need to work towards just letting things be.
Fannish goals, I think maybe giving more fanfics a chance when I have the time. I can be pickier than I like to admit, again on being opinionated, but I think that's meant I've missed out. Honestly, the same is true of all media. I've almost missed out on things I ended up loving because I was dismissive. And fanfic is free. It's a little more understandable to want to hold off on buying something if I have mixed feelings, but it costs nothing to give a fanfic a shot.
I think one all-encompassing goal is to not let myself get wrapped up in other people's lives. Here's the thing: I'm both obsessed with keeping the peace and making sure everyone's comfort level is at the maximum level, and highly opinionated. (Though ironically, sometimes just wanting everyone to be happy is why I'm irritable and/or opinionated. It's interesting.) So outside I'm going "yeah girl, you do you!!!", inside I'm grappling with whether or not to say something. I've gotten much better, but I do need to work towards just letting things be.
Fannish goals, I think maybe giving more fanfics a chance when I have the time. I can be pickier than I like to admit, again on being opinionated, but I think that's meant I've missed out. Honestly, the same is true of all media. I've almost missed out on things I ended up loving because I was dismissive. And fanfic is free. It's a little more understandable to want to hold off on buying something if I have mixed feelings, but it costs nothing to give a fanfic a shot.
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Date: 2024-01-03 04:26 pm (UTC)This. Absolutely! I always feel very alone in this experience and for me, the next phase of this is just tears. ugh.
Best of luck with your goals!
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Date: 2024-01-04 01:39 pm (UTC)I think a lot of people have this problem. And yes, the tears. Blah.
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Date: 2024-01-03 05:00 pm (UTC)I need to get into this mindset as well. I skip over most fanfics unless the summary and/or tags really grab my attention. Might add a fanfic reading goal to my own list.
Your goals sound really well thought out and I wish you the best of luck with accomplishing them!
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Date: 2024-01-04 01:48 pm (UTC)I think it's tricky because yeah, you should just read what you want to read, but I think we all have preferences that might mean we're missing out.
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Date: 2024-01-03 10:29 pm (UTC)Oh gods, me too! It’s awful. I also have horrible anxiety and think I’m wrong all the time or think that everyone else will think I’m wrong anyway, but I still sometimes feel the need to say something and then it sounds like I think I’m so difficult, and I’m not, I want everyone to be happy (and not cross with me) but… ugh.
Um… I hear you, is what I mean.
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Date: 2024-01-04 03:25 am (UTC)Yeah, and sometimes if someone reacts badly when I DO let my opinion be known, I convince myself I said something wrong. Which even if I did, is not the end of the world, but also, people are going to react and... yeah. I dunno. Anxiety.
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Date: 2024-01-04 04:28 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2024-01-03 11:46 pm (UTC)(It's not 100% free though - trying out fanfics takes time, and we only have so much of it, so some level of pickiness is needed, so I allow myself to nope out of them as soon as I'm not enjoying them anymore.)
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Date: 2024-01-04 03:25 am (UTC)(It's not 100% free though - trying out fanfics takes time, and we only have so much of it, so some level of pickiness is needed, so I allow myself to nope out of them as soon as I'm not enjoying them anymore.)
That's a good point.
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Date: 2024-01-04 06:42 pm (UTC)I wish you many fun fanfics!
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Date: 2024-01-05 09:21 pm (UTC)Good Luck with your goals!